Updated: Apr 7, 2020
Change is hard but we all go through it at some point in life. From starting a new job, or a new school, to maybe moving across the world; without accepting change, you won't have the ability to grow. The scary part about change is that we never know how to deal with it because it's new. How can you expect to be able to deal with something you've never had to deal with before? So what do we do?
The way we react to change is completely based on our previous experiences. Can you think of a time you've seen a kid crying over something that you think seems so absurd ? Like when your 6 year old cousin has a whole breakdown because their best friend didn't want to hang out with them and hung out with another kid? To us that's over reacting, but to them its one of the worst things they have ever experienced. So you see, reactions are only a comparison to things you have already experienced.
Sometimes we choose to ignore the problem. We act as though nothing is happening and hope that whatever is bothering us just goes away and life goes back to "normal." In the moment when you feel scared or anxious when dealing with change, you are not overreacting, you just haven't found the right way to deal with this situation before.
Leaving us to constantly question if we are handling everything "correctly."
So how do I deal with change properly ?
It's a trial and error of what works for you. Everyone is different, therefore some activities will have different effects...
Here's some suggestions:
1. Read about it. Sometimes learning about what you're going through and how to deal with it helps. Some of these books also have little pages that allow you to work through things. Here's a list of some good ones to check out. The list will get updated every once in a while so look out for updates.
2. Walk away for a little while. Do something that gets your mind off of it. Go to a movie, take yourself out to eat, have a mini spa day. Do something that makes you happy. Change can be overwhelming and sometimes you need to take smaller steps.
3. Talk about it. Whether it be to your friends or a professional talking about it helps. Remember that going to therapy is just as normal as going to the doctor and getting a check up. If you just want try therapy you can check out websites like talkspace or look for a therapist near you on some of these websites. 1, 2, 3, 4, 5. If none of these seem right for you or you want to talk to someone confidentially you can always use our chat. We're here for you.
4. Most importantly remember everything will get better, you just have to get through it.! I'm Rooting for you !